Elaine’s Blog
I hope you enjoy these ramblings
How to Put Down Your Metaphorical Frying Pan and Stop Beating Yourself Up
Get yourself a frying pan from the kitchen and hit yourself over the head with it. Those are probably not the words you’d expect from a coach. Did I train at the Bob Newhart ‘Stop it’ school? Maybe I did. But I have often uttered these words to clients because I tell...
Where Do You Get Your Best Ideas?
A colleague of mine was presenting a two-day well-being programme to a group of high-level executives in a corporate company, and he asked the group where they got their best ideas. A few said they got their best ideas in the shower. Nothing unusual about this answer,...
5 Ways to Upgrade Your Day Without Joining the Crazy O’clock Club
Who wants easy ways to make your day a little more special? Not me, you might say; my days are pretty fine. Well, you’d better click off right now, or else your days will get better whether you want them to or not. And the best bit is that you don’t have to do much....
How to Spring Clean Your Mind: Clean Your Mental Closet and Feel Refreshed
Does your closet look like the leftovers from an Orphan Annie film? There’s something satisfying about clearing your closet of old clothes that you hang on to ‘just in case.’ In case of what? That you lose the weight to fit into your skinny, skinny jeans or are you...
Six Instant Happiness Hacks
When I have a blue day, I know that if I look for reasons I feel blue, I’ll find them. Years ago, if I felt sad when I woke up in the morning, I would ask myself why and then run through a list of reasons that might make me sad. And then I’d wonder why I felt worse....
How to Love Someone Unconditionally Even When They Drive You Mad
Who do you love? I love my daughters with all my heart. I love my partner with all my heart. Isn’t it lucky that the heart is elastic? Most mornings, I wake up and look at my partner, and I think he’s gorgeous. But some mornings, I wake up, look at him, and think,...
How to Get Out of the Flames if You’re in Hell on Earth
In 2016 a Michigan pastor called Gerald Johnson had a heart attack and claimed he died when his ‘spirit left my physical body.’ I’m fascinated with near-death experiences. I was riveted by Anita Moorjani’s account in her book, Dying To Be Me, but this one confused me....
What Kind of World Do You Believe In?
The World We Believe In Becomes The World We Live In Buddha This is so true. Unless you don’t believe it. I mean, the world is just the world, isn’t it? But your world might not be my world. And do you only inhabit one world? How about the leagues of people that love...
Is Seeing With Your Head More Fun Than Seeing With Your Eyes?
'Make a place available to the eyes, and in certain ways, it is no longer available to the imagination' Joan Didion Picture this. Pompeii. ‘I’d like to invite you to use your imagination; the tour guide told us as he let us around the ruins. And oh, my imagination...