Elaine’s Blog

I hope you enjoy these ramblings

Do you think that you’re Lucky?

Do you think that you’re Lucky?

Do you think that you’re lucky? Do things tend to go your way or do you think that you’re always unlucky? Why is it that some people think that they’re lucky and other people feel that the cards are firmly stacked against them? What is luck and where do you find it?...

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How to Give up the Fight

How to Give up the Fight

I’ve never been keen on fighting. Whether it’s real-life boxing or fantasy fiction, I just don’t like watching people beating each other. And I’ve also never been keen on a fight mentality. I know that many very successful people talk about their fight to make it to...

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How Confident are you that you’re not Confident?

How Confident are you that you’re not Confident?

I grew up believing that I was shy. I didn’t like being shy, the irony is that when people think that you’re shy, they make a fuss of you which is exactly what you don’t want. So I learned to pretend to be confident and then people left me alone. I stepped into...

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How to Win an Argument

How to Win an Argument

The way to win an argument is … not to have an argument. Now I’m sorry if you feel a little cheated, after all, I did title this article, ‘How to win an argument’ but hear me out. I used to be a class A arguer. Of course, I didn’t always see that I was getting into an...

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Good Cop, Bad Cop

Good Cop, Bad Cop

I watched something recently where a senior policeman talked about the good cop, bad cop routine. I’m sure you know this? It’s when two policemen talk to a suspect and one is kind and considerate and the other is a bolshy bully. This is a common negotiation technique...

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What if We Grew Legs at Puberty?

What if We Grew Legs at Puberty?

Can you imagine it? If we grew legs anytime from 11 years onwards, no one would want to walk. People would start to compare the length of their legs with others. How fat or thin their legs are compared to other legs. Will people laugh if I fall down? How long will it...

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Are you Experiencing Wisdom or Wind?

Are you Experiencing Wisdom or Wind?

What is wisdom? Is it a feeling in your gut, the proverbial gut feeling? Or is that wind (or gas if you’re not in the UK)? People search for wisdom. They look everywhere and in all the wrong places. We’ve been conditioned to look for answers in books or online or you...

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How Not to Self Sabotage

How Not to Self Sabotage

Do you ever feel as if you sabotage yourself? Maybe you’re always late for an important meeting? Or you drink too much when you’re out with new people? Or you want to lose weight and start eating healthily but then you get stuck in the Hagen Daz and give up. And then...

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Are you Biased?

Are you Biased?

Do you think you’re biased? Some people think that they aren’t susceptible to anything but that just proves that they’re susceptible to their own bias.There are at least 175 types of bias according to research but the two main biases that most people operate are...

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