Notes from the Couch

I hope you enjoy these ramblings

Do You Deserve a Second Chance?

Do You Deserve a Second Chance?

‘“I’ve learned that making a living is not the same thing as making a life. I’ve learned that life always offers us a second chance to prove ourselves.”  Maya Angelou. People often talk about getting or wanting a second chance. But to do what? Why will a second chance...

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Let Me Represent You

A guy is riding in the first-class cabin of a train in Spain and to his delight, he notices that he is sitting next to Pablo Picasso. Gathering up his courage, he turns to the master and says, ‘Senor Picasso, you are a great artist, but why is all your art, all modern...

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How Many Noes Can You Collect Today?

How Many Noes Can You Collect Today?

What on earth am I talking about? Why would you collect noes? Who wants to be told no? But collecting noes is freeing; it’s your golden ticket to peace of mind. Saying no is one of the first words that children pick up. When your toddler said no for the first time,...

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Do You Want to Live Forever?

Do You Want to Live Forever?

There’s a village in Sardinia called Seulo that has the highest number of centenarians in the world. And? Seulo is one of the world’s ‘blue zones’. Blue zones aren’t the coldest part of the house, they’re places in the world where people live and live and live and...

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Why Coaching Isn’t the Same as Negotiating

Why Coaching Isn’t the Same as Negotiating

This week, I watched a documentary about the cult NXIVM. During this documentary, psychologists talked about the power of NLP to manipulate cult members, and this got me thinking about how different coaching modalities are used to manipulate and how far this...

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Are You Driving in the Middle Lane?

Are You Driving in the Middle Lane?

Middle lane hogging is, according to a RAC survey, the most frustrating thing for motorway drivers. You may know that most of our motorways only have three lanes here in the UK, and the middle lane is for overtaking, not for cruising. I have, hands up, been known to...

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Why You Should Spend Time Instead of Saving It

Why You Should Spend Time Instead of Saving It

In 1972 two seconds were added to time. The seconds were added because it was a leap year and time was out of sync with the earth’s rotation. Did those two seconds change the course of anyone’s life? Who knows? Someone might have stepped out into the road in front of...

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Should You Accept the Unacceptable?

Should You Accept the Unacceptable?

When you think of acceptance, what comes to mind? Do you think that accepting what is means that nothing changes? Or do you think that accepting what is right now means everything can change? Acceptance might feel like a gift for some people, and for others, it might...

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